Your Mind: use it or lose it, and take good care of it

I think we all feel like we're losing our minds sometimes. We misplace keys, walk into rooms forgetting why we're there, and forget names. We worry about ending up with some kind of dementia when we're older. 

Don't worry. Do something about it!

I'm quoting the Greater Good website again. Today, I read an article called, 

How to Keep Your Brain Sharp

The author recommends a book, The SharpBrains Guide to Brain Fitness. 

You're walking and working on your level of physical fitness. Good! That helps your brain too.  Research has found that: 

"the longer distance people walked, the larger their brain volume and the lower the risk of developing dementia or cognitive impairment. These studies and others lead the authors to recommend moderate exercise, three times a week, for improved brain function."

Yay! I've just started a morning exercise regimen, walking or swimming every morning. 

In fact, lots of things that we already do to help us keep fit and happy are things that help the brain keep sharp and fit too. 

Brain Power!

"Some of the diseases of aging, like cognitive decline or Alzheimer’s, can be postponed or improved with simple interventions, like moderate exercise, diet changes, and increasing one’s cognitive challenges."

I started taking piano lessons a few years ago, and constantly remind myself that this is one way that I'm using my mind instead of losing it. It's much harder for me than it is for my 13-year-old daughter, and sometimes I get discouraged. But, I try to stay motivated. 

The dietary recommendations include: "nuts, fruits, vegetables, fish, and olive oil, with moderate alcohol consumption." So, I'm going to have to increase the amount of alcohol I regularly drink. Yay! 

Another thing that helps is social interactions. Maintaining your friendships and being in a club, or a choir, help to keep the brain in good condition, improving your working memory. Yes! 

So, here's another reminder that it's all connected. We need to eat well, exercise regularly, and sing in a choir to keep happy and healthy as we age, taking care of our bodies, our minds and our souls. 

I'm working on it!

My Newmarket Home: Appreciating Affording Awesome

A house made of brick, with stairs up to the bedrooms, insisted my eldest

More than one bathroom was what I wanted most, and better closet space

A basement and a backyard to play in, lots of kitchen cupboards and counter space

The most important thing was to be within the French Immersion School’s catchment area

The bottom line: What could we afford?

It turns out we could afford awesome

The kind of neighbourhood where people say hello when they cross paths

Where backyards have pools and jungle gyms, and tree swings and tree forts

Or hot tubs and teak sets, ponds with koi and garden Buddhas smiling peacefully

Mature trees proudly provide shade as you walk along sturdy sidewalks

Flowers, perennials and annuals, in beds, boxes, urns, and brass bicycles

And some yards are simply broad expanses of lawn mowed on Saturdays

Summers are quiet, and in the fall and winter and spring only the mornings are bustling

So quiet that you can hear the birds and bugs or the snow crunching under your feet

A passing car is loud, and a skateboarder is a storm with headphones humming a tune

Smelly school buses and cranky commuters move along the main roads in the morning

After, a group of dog walkers meet in the park and the tennis matches also start

Then, when the dogs are done, a day care parades to the playground chattering

Walking in Toronto, a new couple, we dreamed about a house and a yard

Until we drove up Yonge Street, looked north, it was just a dream

We followed our destiny up to Newmarket

Now, it’s an amazing reality and we’re gratified and grateful and part of our community

Our house, our neighbourhood, our town, our home sweet home

Not perfect (laundry room, loud landscaping tools, tree rot, dandelions) but awesome

Take a walk to feel good

Walk: 

advance, amble, ambulate, exercise, file, foot, go on foot, hike, hit the road, hoof it, locomote, march, meander, pace, pad, parade, patrol, perambulate, promenade, race, roam, rove, saunter, shuffle, stalk, step, stride, stroll, strut, take a walk, toddle, tour, traipse, tramp, travel on foot, traverse, tread, trek, troop, wander, wend one's way, etc.

I love to walk through my neighbourhood and look at the houses and gardens. I love to walk in the woods and along a lake. I love to walk through a city as a tourist. I love the sound of snow under my feet when it's crisp and cold.

I like to walk alone and I like to walk and talk too.

Think about holding hands with someone you love as you walk. Doesn't that feel good? Even just thinking about it is nice.

The picture above was taken in our local park, Fairy Lake, where a path takes you through open spaces and into woods along a creek. There are paved sections, gravel parts and a boardwalk too. I love walking through Fairy Lake with my daughters and my husband, pointing out interesting and beautiful things as we go. A family walk is a special thing.

A walk around the block or in the woods is not just good for your body, cardio if it's fast enough and far enough, it's also good for your mind and soul. A walk can help clear your head and think through a problem and can show you the beauty of the world you live in. Take a walk to feel better.

Here's what some famous folks have said about walking:

The Mayo Clinic: 

Walking: Trim your waistline, improve your health

For example, regular brisk walking can help you:

• Maintain a healthy weight
• Prevent or manage various conditions, including heart disease, high blood pressure and type 2 diabetes
• Strengthen your bones
• Lift your mood
• Improve your balance and coordination

The faster, farther and more frequently you walk, the greater the benefits.

Me thinks that the moment my legs begin to move, my thoughts begin to flow.  ~Henry David Thoreau

My father considered a walk among the mountains as the equivalent of churchgoing.  ~Aldous Huxley

Above all, do not lose your desire to walk.  Every day I walk myself into a state of well-being and walk away from every illness.  I have walked myself into my best thoughts, and I know of no thought so burdensome that one cannot walk away from it.  ~Soren Kierkegaard

Lose weight more easily with positive thinking

We know that diet is a 4-letter word, so when you start your diet, don't call it a diet. Don't make a sad face and say "I'm on a diet." Make it a positive experience right from the start.

Set yourself up for success by smiling and telling yourself and everyone else that you're making some changes to improve your health. Don't eat those chips because you're working on improving your health. Eat more fruits and vegetables and less meat and fewer carbs to get healthier.  Get out and exercise because it makes you feel good. If it feels good, you will do it more and more and you will become fitter and healthier.

At the Mayo Clinic, they say that your attitude is a very important part of a weight loss program. Here's a link to their blog post about it. It makes sense, doesn't it?

Repeat positive things and avoid saying negative things. Avoid saying that you can't eat something or that you're "not allowed". That just makes you feel deprived and bad. (Been there: done that.) Try new foods and enjoy the food you do eat. Think about improving and work towards your goal with a happy heart.

I've got to work on my weight and fitness, and I've started swimming in the morning. So far, it's great. I feel good about doing it and I'm also going to look at what I eat and drink and what I'm feeding my family. We can all benefit from developing better eating habits. Wish me luck!

Ageing is better when you're happier

The daily blog of the Heart and Stroke Calendar had these 10 tips to keep you young.



It looks like the keys to ageing well are the same as the keys to happiness. Lots of those points are in my last post about increasing happiness. I especially like the last one, be a kid again!





I really have to pay more attention to my physical fitness. It's on every self-improvement list. Also, eating more fish is something that keeps coming up. I've tried to put fish on the menu once a week, but I have to try harder. I'm so incredibly happy that I never started smoking! I'm even happier that my children didn't grow up with cigarette smoke anywhere in their lives.

1. Stop the stress.  Worrying ages us all – and finding some calm amongst the trials of every day life is a challenge.  Try some meditation – or read our guide ‘Coping with Stress’ to get started!
2. Eat more fish!  Omega-3 fatty acids help maintain bone strength, give us radiant skin – and are great for a heart-healthy diet too.
3. Get involved in your community.  Research shows that volunteering can reduce stress, help with depression – and even lower blood pressure.
4. Train your brain!  Keep your mind active and stay sharp as you age by doing puzzles, playing memory games and reading often.
5. Laugh more.  Release those endorphins and give your face muscles a good stretch by watching a comedy DVD, reading a funny book, or laughing with friends.
6. Start walking.  Just 10 minutes a day can begin to get your body back in shape.  Get some aerobic exercise too – regular physical activity keeps your heart, lungs and entire cardiovascular system in tip-top shape.
7. Stretch your limbs. Check out our blog from last week to find out how flexibility keeps you active longer – and which stretches will work for you!
8. Get outside.  (Slap on the sunscreen of course).  Vitamin D energises and revitalises.  Breathing in fresh air is energising. Fresh air has a higher oxygen content than stale air that’s been breathed in and out over and over again – and a steady supply of oxygen is needed to keep your brain and every cell in your body healthy.
9. Stop smoking.  Not only are you risking serious illness, but smoking ages the skin.
10. Be a kid again!  Enjoy everything like a child.  Live for the moment, try new experiences, take an extra moment to wonder over the littlest thing…a butterfly landing nearby, a busker on your way to work, a beautiful flower in the park.  It’ll help you appreciate life to the full!

Make your brain power and happiness increase and last longer

In this article on the Greater Good Website, How to Trick your Brain for Happiness, Rick Hanson says that you should actively stretch your brain to increase the areas of the brain that make you happy. We know that saying "use it or lose it". As we age, we are more and more aware of that. Hanson suggests that you work on paying attention to positive experiences and making sure they "sink in" or really plant themselves in your brain so that you can access them, and you can increase the power of the brain to make connections and increase your feelings of happiness and reward. You can actively change your brain so that your brain power and happiness increase and last. 

He says:

You can use the mind to change the brain to change the mind for the better.

This is known as “self-directed neuroplasticity.” Neuroplasticity refers to the malleable nature of the brain, and it’s constant, ongoing. Self-directed neuroplasticity means doing it with clarity and skillfulness and intention.

The key to it is a controlled use of attention. Attention is like a spotlight, to be sure, shining on things within our awareness. But it’s also like vacuum cleaner, sucking whatever it rests upon into the brain, for better or worse.

For example, if we rest our attention routinely on what we resent or regret—our hassles, our lousy roommate, what Jean-Paul Sartre called “hell” (other people)—then we’re going to build out the neural substrates of those thoughts and feelings.

On the other hand, if we rest our attention on the things for which we’re grateful, the blessings in our life—the wholesome qualities in ourselves and the world around us; the things we get done, most of which are fairly small yet they’re accomplishments nonetheless—then we build up very different neural substrates.

If a person feels grateful for a few seconds, that’s nice. That’s better than feeling resentful or bitter for a few seconds. But in order to really suck that experience into the brain, we need to stay with those experiences for a longer duration of time—we need to take steps, consciously, to keep that spotlight of attention on the positive. (my italics)

1. Let a good fact become a good experience. Often we go through life and some good thing happens—a little thing, like we checked off an item on our To Do list, we survived another day at work, the flowers are blooming, and so forth. Hey, this is an opportunity to feel good. Don’t leave money lying on the table: Recognize that this is an opportunity to let yourself truly feel good.

2. Really savor this positive experience. Practice what any school teacher knows: If you want to help people learn something, make it as intense as possible—in this case, as felt in the body as possible—for as long as possible.

3. Finally, as you sink into this experience, sense your intent that this experience is sinking into you. Sometimes people do this through visualization, like by perceiving a golden light coming into themselves or a soothing balm inside themselves. You might imagine a jewel going into the treasure chest in your heart—or just know that this experience is sinking into you, becoming a resource you can take with you wherever you go.

Happiness Habits

This chart from the Greater Good Science Centre in Berkeley California is worth studying more closely.

The 6 habits of happiness worth cultivating are:

• Pay Attention
• Keep Friends Close
• Give Thanks
• Drop Grudges
• Get Moving
• Practise Kindness (I know, I used Canadian spelling.)

I need to work on exercising more and I would like to spend more time with my friends. Luckily, I do most of the things that people say happy people should do without even thinking about it. I'm probably genetically disposed and have had a good environment of positive thinking and positive action. I know I'm happier than most. I was a happy baby, a happy child, and even a mostly happy teenager.

One of the things that should be added to the list is

• Sing in a choir.

Or, at least Share Music in some way. Music, and particularly sharing music weekly in my choir, is a huge source of happiness for me. Singing along to the radio in the car, dancing with friends, and listening to a concert or watching a music video all make me happy too. 

What would you add to the list of Happiness Habits?

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Change the world with small acts of kindness

I'm not alone. I'm not the only one. I'm not a spacey pollyanna who's out of touch with reality (or not the only one, anyway). Positive thinking and small acts of kindness are powerful and I do make a difference in the world just by being me.

There is a ton of work going on to study Happiness and Well-being, not just to promote lifestyle changes for individuals or products to improve your life, but to promote Peace and the Greater Good. Some of this work is done at the Greater Good Science Center in California at the University of California at Berkeley.

The Greater Good Science Center studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.

How cool is that? (I know, Berkeley California.) Click on that link and check out their website. There are tons of fascinating articles to read. That was their mission statement and this is what they believe:

Our Core Beliefs

• Compassion is a fundamental human trait, with deep psychological and evolutionary roots. By creating environments that foster cooperation and altruism, we help nurture the positive side of human nature.
• Happiness is not simply dependent on a person’s genes. It is a set of skills that can be taught, and, with practice, developed over time.
• Happiness and altruism are intertwined—doing good is an essential ingredient to being happy.
• Science should do more than help us understand human behavior and emotion in the abstract; it should be applied toward improving people’s personal and professional lives.
• Studying the roots of good, healthy, and positive behavior is just as important as studying human pathologies. To promote individual and social well-being, science must examine how people overcome difficult circumstances and how they develop positive emotions and relationships.
• Individual well-being promotes social well-being, and social well-being promotes individual well-being. The well-being of society as a whole can best be achieved by providing information, tools, and skills to those people directly responsible for shaping the well-being of others.

There's a documentary film in the works that some of those Berkeley scientists have contributed to. 

Good Virus is a feel-good documentary, narrated by Catherine Ryan Hyde, best selling author of the novel and film, Pay It Forward. Good Virus is all about being nice and the benefits of being nice. We profile cutting-edge scientists and authors from Berkeley to Harvard and everywhere in between as well as real life people whose lives illustrate their incredible discovery: THAT KINDNESS IS CONTAGIOUS!

You can read about Good Virus on this website.

I now have 2 more books to add to my summer reading list: Pay if Forward, by Catherine Ryan Hyde and Born to be Good: the science of a meaningful life, by Dacher Keltner.

Here are some Happiness Habits for you from Berkeley: