Thursday, 15 July 2021

Slow Food and Slow Ageing

Slow Food and Slow Living, the Slow Movement, started back in the late 1980s and 1990s in Europe in part as a reaction to and defense against fast food restaurants like McDonald's. 

The struggle continues. Avoiding fast food is a huge topic. Slow Food is becoming more important in connection with climate change and in reaction to all the take-out food we’ve been eating during the COVID pandemic.


When my children were little, I was a stay-at-home mom. We had one modest income and a very small home with a nice garden. The first foods my babies ate were things from my garden. We tried to avoid spending money eating out and rarely had fast food, but we did indulge in a Big Mac on occasion. Burger King was a fun treat too. 

My mother didn't trust preservatives, additives, chemicals in foods, and didn't like "junk food" (junk food definition varies, right?), and my friends and neighbours were mostly of Italian heritage and their parents also looked down on fast food and junk food, so I was already indoctrinated. Still, the draw of the salty and sweet and fatty and colourful fast food and packaged processed foods is strong, hard to resist. It's harder to resist when your children become aware of it.

Being a stay-at-home mom was already in 1996 an anachronism. All of my friends had full-time jobs. I was not afraid of being different; I was raised to think independently. This choice of lifestyle is something that made it easy for me to embrace Slow Living and Slow Food, although I wasn’t really familiar with them. Without being aware of the term, I was also Slow Parenting. 

I am now discovering Slow Ageing. And, it’s another thing that I am falling into without even trying. I have to read Carl Honore’s 2019 book Bolder: Making the Most of our Longer Lives. It sounds like the perfect thing for me. Carl Honore wrote In Praise of Slow: Challenging the Cult of Speed in 2004 and became the “godfather of the Slow Movement”.

Here’s what Honore says about Bolder on his website:

My first three books took down the canard that faster is always better. BOLDER is about shooting down the myth that younger is always better.

 The Amazon description of Bolder includes this:

We'll embrace the idea that we can carry on learning from start to finish; that we can work less and devote more time to family, leisure, and giving back to our communities in our middle years; and that we can remain active and engaged in our later years.

“Slow Ageing” (corrected to the American spelling aging) shows up on the internet mostly in advertisements for Anti-Ageing products. Anti-Ageing products, attractive things full of chemicals and empty promises, are just like Fast Food. They do not slow down the ageing process. You’re still ageing, you might just look younger. And why would you want to do that? Because it’s flashy and heavily advertised?

The articles I actually looked at were about staying healthy and happy as you get older. Slow Ageing is really an idea that is in opposition to Anti-Aging. Slow Ageing is Pro-Aging. Yes, ageing, let’s do this thing! It’s good and natural and worth doing well. Like Slow Food.

Bring on the grey hair and laugh lines; I don’t mind looking older in that way. But, I don’t want to stoop or walk stiffly (which I currently do sometimes). I want to be able to move without pain, get up out of a chair without feeling old, and I want to dance forever. Pain makes me cranky. I aim to be a cute grandmother, a fun one, not a cranky one. I want to avoid or put off the walker, the pain killers. I joked with my colleagues that my 5-year plan was to be a stay-at-home grandma. To that end, I retired early to start to take care of myself. The desk work and stress were making me unhappy and unhealthy, ageing me in ways I didn’t like.

Basically, Slow Ageing turns out to be a simple extension of Slow Living. From what I’ve read so far, I’ve extracted the following simple ways to help you age gracefully, to help me age gracefully.

1.     Eat well. Avoid (eliminate if you can) fast food, chemicals, processed foods, packaged foods.

Eat fresh food, and eat it mindfully. Drink lots of water. There’s a lot of good information about eating. Choose what sounds best to you. “You are what you eat” is true. Look into Slow Food.

2.     Keep moving. Avoid sitting.

Exercise regularly doing things you enjoy. Be mindful of simple opportunities to move more, like taking stairs instead of elevators or walking to your friend’s house instead of driving, cleaning your own house and gardening instead of hiring a service. Get outside to walk and play, and while you enjoy other benefits of being in nature move your body. Fresh air and exercise will help you to sleep well. Sleep is important. Organized activities are good too. See below. Look into joining the Seniors’ Centre. Look into Slow Living and Slow Travel.

3.     Take care of your mind and heart. Avoid negativity.

Keep learning and growing intellectually and challenge your ideas and beliefs. By keeping an open mind, you can always find something positive in everything and everyone, like Pollyanna. Nurture your relationships and build new ones. Connecting with people is important for lots of reasons. Singing in a choir is a perfect thing to do. In the York Region Community Choir, we are learning all the time and connecting with people (old friends and always new ones too), getting out of our houses moving our bodies, and singing about big positive themes. We grow. We practise mindful breathing. We feel joy. You can also take a dance class or an art class, or join a group of people who practise Tai Chi. These will all benefit your bodies and minds and hearts.


That’s it in a nutshell. There are so many interesting things to learn about what kinds of foods are best for different things and what kinds of exercise are best for different things, and when it’s the best time to eat or move. Research continues to show new ideas. We’ll keep learning, right? And, let’s do it together! I hope to do more socially now, so maybe I’ll give you a call. 

Monday, 5 July 2021

Staying Positive during the COVID Pandemic: Working at it

I lost it. My positivity. I became moody, emotional, agitated, sad. My ability to reframe negative experiences slowly disappeared. I cried every day for one reason or another. 

I tried lots of ways to stay positive during the COVID pandemic to varying degrees of success. Most of them were the usual recommended ones, and some of them the usual unhealthy ones. 

I gained weight because I often chose comfort foods and "fun" foods and beverages, like potato chips and vodka as rewards or compensation. I used alcohol to feel better, almost a drink a day for some time. I would feel okay about it because I wasn’t drinking in the daytime or more than one a day. For the 2021 new year, I resolved to eat better and to drink less, to cut down to 2 or 3 drinks a week. It's getting there, but we're half way through the year already, and I'm still drinking more than that. I haven’t started using legal marijuana, so that’s something, right? I make big efforts to eat better but then I reward myself with treats like desserts or poutine or a fancy drink. Ugh. 

The Canadian and American public health websites had prominent lists of ways to take care of our mental health during COVID. I’ll go down the Canadian list to show how I’m doing and what I’ve done to push myself out of my funk.

Tips for taking care of yourself (From the Government of Canada site):

  • Stay informed but take breaks from social media and the news.
  • Practise physical distancing, but stay socially connected to friends and family through:
    • email
    • phone calls
    • video chats
    • social media
  • Practise mindfulness by:
    • stretching
    • meditating
    • taking deep breaths
  • Try to:
  • Follow safe food handling and cooking practices to keep you and your family safe by killing the virus and lowering your risk of infection.
  • Think about how to use any unexpected flexibility in your daily routine.
  • Focus on the positive aspects of your life and things you can control.
  • Be kind and compassionate to yourself and others.
  • If you can, limit your use of substances.
    • If you do use substances, practise safer use and good hygiene.

1. Stay informed but take breaks:

Avoiding the news was a big one. I've been doing that forever though. I’ve never been comfortable watching TV news. I can’t stand CP24. I get highlights, enough to keep relatively current, mostly through social media. I don't use Twitter at all anymore but I spend way too much time on Facebook and Instagram. I actually set up a time limit on my phone to curb that. Hearing about COVID deaths was upsetting, all that data was stressful. Now that I’m not working, I’m at a computer way less, and can put my phone away for long breaks.

2. Stay apart but connected:

Hearing and seeing friends and family doing well and posting positive things on social media is always wonderful. Zoom dates, and FaceTime, Messenger, and Houseparty have all been great ways to see people I couldn't see. Connecting electronically has saved us. I saw some friends and family members more in video calls than before, because we live so far apart. At work, we used Teams for meeting and collaborating. It was good, but people didn’t all have access to use video, and although I tried to get everyone to at least have a profile photo, not everyone did. It was good, but, it was disappointing and it wasn’t enough. Management also pressured us into returning to the office, which was unsettling. I do think that seeing the people you work with is important. Connecting socially is important for workplaces too. Remote work is fine if there are good opportunities to connect. 

3. Stay mindful:

Mindfulness is great when you can break through the clouds of depression. I installed the Calm (www.calm.com) app so that I could use the guided meditations and calming music. It helped. Breathing with rhythm is something I’m pretty good at. Breathing I can do. I’m also good at gratitude. I’ve always been positive in that way, recognizing all of the things that I have to be thankful for. Still, sometimes I would have to remind myself to breathe and take notice of my blessings. Stretching is another story. I'm not so great at that so I'm trying to become more flexible. 

4. Stay healthy:

I’m a good breather and also a good sleeper. It sounds like nothing, but being mindful and grateful for calming breaths and good restful sleep helps. For exercise, I started walking Dexter every morning. It helped to exercise and to appreciate the trees and parks in my neighbourhood. Walking in our neighbourhoods has been the only way to get of the house that so many of us have had for the past year or so. Something fun and active that I do at least once weekly is have a “dance party”, where I put on loud dance music and dance around the house. My older child who lives at home joins me. I use music to calm myself and to energize myself, to help myself focus and to block out the world. I already mentioned that eating and drinking are an issue. But, I recently visited a new doctor and tests showed good blood pressure and cholesterol and iron and all the usual things that they check. I’m grateful for this healthy body of mine. I've got to be sure to keep it healthy. 



5. Keep safe shopping and preparing food:

We eat home-cooked meals almost exclusively and have always done so. Because of personal preferences, we tend to over-cook things. Staying safe in the kitchen is not new or difficult for us. I enjoy preparing food so I’m always reading about it too, and that keeps me informed. Harry has been the hero and done most of the grocery shopping throughout the pandemic, especially at the beginning. Our grocery stores are careful and safe, and we can go shopping when there aren’t many other shoppers. Something new that we started during the pandemic is that we occasionally enjoy ordering dinner from local restaurants for delivery or pick-up. Maybe when we can go out again, we'll visit them more regularly too.

6. Stay positive and kind:

I’ve included all of the last points from the list (except substance use. Mine is alcohol and I’ve talked about that) in this section. For me, they all fit together. I am being more positive and kinder to myself and others now that I have taken care of my schedule by leaving my job. Flexibility in my schedule was something that I didn’t have while I was working, and my free time was a thing I didn’t manage well. I felt that I couldn’t take advantage of free time because I was exhausted, spent, and cranky after work. I tried to take lunch breaks on my deck, and tried to keep work and home separate. It only worked a bit. Ultimately, there was little I could do to control how much I was working. It was hard to stay positive when my days were spent under pressure and I became more and more sad and angry and less and less positive. I would catch myself being sarcastic and swearing at people and then I’d feel even worse. Removing myself from work was the answer for me. Apparently it’s been a common occurrence during the pandemic. People are retiring early, as the financial situation seems less important than it used to. How much money do you really need? How can we manage differently?

June 2021: 

I had to make a major life change in order to survive, to pull myself up and find the positivity that I had lost. The problems at work weren’t new. The extra stress of COVID didn’t make me crazy, or just overly sensitive, but it made me unable to control my reactions to things, kind of like a year of PMS. And, I was exhausted. The lack of social time and all the other losses we experienced due to the pandemic highlighted the importance of family and friends, home and nature, and self-care. “The Company” would be fine without me. So, I left my job. I retired early, without a pension or a gold watch, but still young, only 57. I'm going to take some time over the summer to relax and take care of myself, my family and my friends. When and if I decide to take a job again, it will have to be slower-paced and more meaningful. I'm currently giving some of my time to my choir, which makes me very happy. I'm taking time to play piano and guitar and ukulele, trying to see if I can accompany myself singing. Singing is something I love and feel strongly about. I want to sing with people. I also love writing, so I'm spending time here too. 

My positivity is coming back, but only because I've made changes and I'm making efforts. My natural good nature only takes me so far, and the rest depends on thoughtful, careful choices. A positive personality is something that has to be cultivated and nurtured, otherwise, it can wilt, apparently. The good news is that it can also grow. (I’ll drink to that!-wait…)